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submitted 11 months ago by emeraldheart@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

I'll answer first: One thing that I do that helps my work environment feel a little nicer is I have a stuffed Totoro on my desk, a nice-smelling candle, and a few tasty snacks in my drawer. I also very quietly play video game music or ambience to remind myself of my hobbies that I like 😊

I just started this job, but I'm trying to make myself feel a bit more cozy, since the work can feel a bit heavy sometimes.

Curious what others do to make their environment a little nicer. :)

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

I appreciate your thought-out response. I'm going to respond as best I can to your points.

I struggle with moral/ethical conundrums in all areas of my life. The current discussion is games, but I really do consider the harm I might be causing any time I buy things. There are some harms that I cannot avoid, such as the purchase of gasoline (my current income is low and I cannot afford a greenee car). Others, such as food purchases, are limited in what I can do... But I try anyway. I have an app for telling me about ethical sourcing by company/product which I use at the store. Clothing, sadly, tends to be unethical no matter what, unless I make my own clothes - I sadly don't have the time or money to do so.

With video games, which are themselves a luxury, I have so many choices of what to play that I feel I have much more ability to decide what not to play, based on how I feel about where my money is going.

I should also acknowledge that I don't think any of these games/developers will suffer as a result of me not purchasing them. Developers/programmers also do not make income based on sales, and layoffs happen after the release of many major AAA games, simply because they don't need that large team anymore (I don't agree with this practice at all, and I think it's horrible to do to people who already don't make enough for their work, but it's relatively industry standard). The gaming community is also waaaay too large for any kind of boycott to be effective. I'm just trying to be mindful about my purchases based on my own feeling.

I think you raise a fair point about indie games. I think it's a good reminder to me to look into those as well. As long as there's no major publicized controversy surrounding an indie company, however, there's no information I can use to steer me away from it. But, I appreciate your reminder not to blindly purchase indie games just because the company is "indie."

Overall, I appreciate you taking the time to respond to me. I will be considering your points as I move forward.

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Hi, everybody! Sorry for the rant!

I'm just posting this as a combination of question and vent. Does anyone else here feel frustrated by the current ethical dilemmas of purchasing games from certain companies? My partner is very tuned into the various ethical mishaps happening in the world and keeps me apprised of which companies are doing shitty stuff and which people/companies I should stop supporting. This is important to remember, but it is also frustrating to see how many companies out there are doing bad things.

This is a very "first world problem," but it's frustrating just how many games out there look cool, but I can't play them because it'd be giving those companies/people money. The biggest examples are Activision Blizzard, J.K. Rowling, and Wizards of the Coast. I think Baldurs Gate 3, for example, looks so awesome, but I don't feel comfortable playing it because my partner has alerted me that some of that money would go to Wizards. I feel somewhat frustrated that the discussion around these issues has evaporated when the games are released; it's as though people stopped caring about the bad things these companies/people did. To be entirely honest, I'm not sure if I myself would be able to keep myself accountable if my partner doesn't remind me of it; I think I may have bought the games like everyone else because of how fun they look, and how much they remind me of games I grew up on.

On a similar note, as my partner is working on becoming a game developer, he follows the state of game development and tells me about it, which seems bleak. I mourn the old studios that I used to have a lot of enjoyment for, like BioWare and the others that EA ate up.

Thanks for reading all of this. :) I wish things were more hopeful, I suppose. My partner urges me to support indie developers, so I'm trying to move in that direction. Does anyone have any recommendations on staying hopeful, given the current state of entertainment?

TL;DR: I'm frustrated by the current largely-unethical state of the games industry and want to know how I can regain some hope about it.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 26 points 1 year ago

The comments in here aren't... what I was expecting from this community. Feels like I'm back on old internet. Ironically, the comments themselves seem to be perpetuating the heteronormativity brought up by the post.

I notice it's mostly people coming in from other communities saying things like "The population is small, so we should only have to see it as much as we see it now (basically never)," which reads as "You barely exist, so continue that way." This ignores the real world current statistics that people are increasingly feeling safe identifying as LGBT+, so we don't actually have a number of where that percentage will plateau. It could be significantly higher than the outdated 5% I'm seeing bandied about in here. It's already moved towards 8% of total USA population, with nearly 20% of Gen Z identifying LGBT. If that holds, then that's quite a lot more than the 5% everyone keeps saying.

Regardless of how little we supposedly matter based on a number, it's insulting to see people outside the community telling us how we should feel about our own experiences. That's not something they get to decide for us.

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submitted 1 year ago by emeraldheart@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

Hi everybody! I couldn't figure out a good place to put this so I'm going to put it here. All the running/fitness communities seemed dead.

I've recently gotten into running with my boyfriend for fitness and our general health. I get bored just exercising with nothing to do while I exercise, and I found an app a few years ago called "Zombies Run!", which has a companion app called "Zombies Run 5K" that gets you slowly trained to run consistent 5k's.

I really love it because it has some really great characters and a plot that you progress through by running.

I really wish other apps like this existed, that gamify working out, because I'm quite a lazy person who needs an extra reason to workout besides just "it's good for me." Being able to talk about the plot and characters with my partner is really helpful at keeping me motivated.

Has anyone else tried this app or apps similar to it?

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(the app is forcing me to put a link so I put Timesplitters 2 gameplay cuz this is mostly a text post)

Hi everyone! I've been feeling frustration about games lately, remembering experiences I had as a kid playing co-op story games with my friends, like Timesplitters and Destroy All Humans, etc.

Modern multiplayer games sometimes have some co-op elements, but many of them are party games like Human Fall Flat or Among Us, or big Battle Royales or Multiplayer shooters. The co-op ones seem to only be survival games like The Forest.

I'm always looking for good co-op experiences to play with my friends, but it's hard to find what I am looking for. I recently played It Takes Two with my partner and that was so wonderful.

Does anyone know any games like what I am looking for? It seems these kinds of games are so few and far between, sadly.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 7 points 1 year ago

Not anything major on my end, but my library does do occasional displays of queer material (among other materials) all year round, which I'm always appreciative of.

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Hi! I made a post a while ago about the show "From." It's a horror thriller about people stuck in a town where monsters that look like people come out at night. It starts quick, slows down in the middle, and picks way back up at the end of the first season. I kept rapidly alternating between loving and hating characters. It's also nail-bitingly tense at times!! I'm absolutely hooked and wanted to share it with others!

I think it's on Amazon Prime, though I just pirated it because I am poor.

I'd love to know if anyone else has watched it and what they thought! If you talk about season two, please spoiler-tag your posts cuz I haven't seen that yet.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 25 points 1 year ago

As someone who works in a library, as long as speakers follow the policies - which mainly focus on being non-profit, etc. - they are allowed to speak. As for the books, libraries order books based on what is popular, what is educational, and what is wanted by the area a particular branch is in.

The intention behind this is to ensure everyone has access to as much information as possible, regardless of what side it's on. Libraries are a place for people to get unhindered access to information and resources.

As my coworkers and I like to say, "A library should have something in it to offend everyone." It's a silly way of saying, we don't ban books and we don't limit access to books. Any books, from any author. To do so would go against everything we stand for.

As for shelving the terf books in the LGBTQ section, that may have more to do with the Dewey Decimal code of those books than it does with personal librarian choice. If its code is 547.6, it'll go with other 547.6 books, for example, regardless of the point it is making.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 16 points 1 year ago

Can anyone explain this one to me? I'm not sure I'm following it.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

It has been so helpful reading everyone's responses to this! I really appreciate how everyone has been responding with their own advice and insights! I'm going to be going through all of these and writing down main points and creating an actionable plan out of them. One main point is it sounds like I need to be really getting into hobby groups/volunteer groups; I absolutely will be doing this.

I also really appreciate people providing their own experiences with this feeling. It makes me feel as though I'm not as alone with this. Adulthood is hard! But it doesn't have to be lonely, and that's something I want to really work on.

Finding Lemmy has been really wonderful; it feels so much friendlier than the other place.

Thank you, everyone. <3

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

I appreciate this feedback! Strangely, my D&D group has not yielded these kinds of friends. I still really value these friendships, though! We just aren't particularly vulnerable with each other. Maybe I'll make a second, separate group.

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submitted 1 year ago by emeraldheart@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

Hi everyone! I'm in my late 20s and I've been reminiscing on my young adult life and what I like/don't like. One point that has been coming up for me is close, vulnerable friendships. I used to have a few friends who I was very close to a few years ago, who I could talk to about deep life stuff, big emotions, vulnerable feelings and worries, and also just enjoy time together discussing silly/serious media or the world.

I have since lost these friends, one way or another. Some simply drifted, some left in a flurry of drama and hurt feelings. I thankfully kept some friends, but a lot of them have been lost.

Despite the volatility of those friendships, there was something I was getting from them that I really needed and still need. I think that need is simply the human desire for close companionship. I have a partner, and he's wonderful; he's not particularly feel-y however, and my friends aren't either. I think I need more emotionally-vulnerable people.

My question is this... How does one make these friends as an adult? In fact, how does one make any friends as an adult? I'm finding myself not knowing how to proceed and find other emotional folk. Any advice would be appreciated. <3

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Hi all! I've been teaching myself German lately, and I've really found so much value in switching Skyrim over to German and immersing myself that way! At first it was really, really hard, and I was spending a lot of time stopping and translating words and adding them to my flashcard app.

Now, it's still hard, but I'm finding with the repetition and the need to know the words, I'm learning quickly! The way you can stop and examine items and learn words that way, and the slow speed of dialogue and ability to repeat most dialogue really lends itself to learning a language.

It's also just a lot of fun! I've never played the DLCs, somehow, so I'm excited to get through the game and play those, as well as trying out some nice mods!

Has anyone else here done this? :)

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TV Show - From (beehaw.org)

Hi! Has anyone seen the TV show "From"? Itl watched the first two episodes with my friend and it's really intriguing! It's very creepy and apocalyptic in a way, with there being a town people can't leave and creepy monster people at night!

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German Learners (beehaw.org)

Hello all! I'm looking to practice my German with other German learners or patient native-speakers! I'm at/near the A2 level and am actively studying as much as I can! A huge part of learning a language is writing/speaking to others, however, and - living in Ohio in the U.S., I don't have much opportunity for that. So I'm looking online!

I'm looking for either: people here who would like to help me practice, or directions to where I might be able to practice with others.

Thanks! :)

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submitted 1 year ago by emeraldheart@beehaw.org to c/chat@beehaw.org

Hello everyone! I'm learning German and I'm trying to make sure my language learning habits are the best they can be. I was using Duolingo and Busuu, but that was taking a lot of time away from immersion/fun and what I learned in one app I often learned in the other, so it felt redundant. So now I just use Busuu for grammar learning.

Any new German words I come across I then enter into Anki for memorization, which I practice once or twice a day.

After these two activities, I try to fill my day as much as possible with German media; this includes German podcasts, music, games translated into German, and YouTube videos.

I want to know... Is this an effective method? I'm always a bit of a perfectionist, so I'm looking for feedback or constructive criticism. Alternatively, you could just share your own language learning methods!

I'd also love to know if there are any great instances for people learning languages! I tried looking, but none of them seemed active :(

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Hello everyone! I'm trying to make sure my language learning habits are the best they can be. I was using Duolingo and Busuu, but that was taking a lot of time away from immersion/fun and what I learned in one I often learned in the other. So now I just use Busuu for grammar learning.

Any new German words I come across I then enter into Anki for memorization, which I practice once a day.

After these two activities, I try to fill my day as much as possible with German media; this includes German podcasts, music, games translated into German, and YouTube videos.

I want to know... Is this an effective method? I'm always a bit of a perfectionist, so I'm looking for either validation or constructive criticism. Alternatively, you could just share your own language learning methods!

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This is basically my favorite artist. I always try to share their work with as many people as I can, since they deserve the attention. :)

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 3 points 1 year ago

This is a bit obscure, but does anyone know any good German YouTubers? I'm trying to practice my language skills. :)

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 10 points 1 year ago

Strahd himself is asking this? I'm star-struck!

Hm, but to try to answer this... I used to play a lot of EverQuest back in the day, and at one point upgraded to EverQuest 2. I was pretty open when talking to people online, even though I was a little kid, just chatting up random players while leveling and regularly inviting random people to groups just to have someone to talk to.

At one point I met some other player who was playing a rat man (Ratonga?) and he and I played for a while while chatting randomly about life or whatever. At some point I must've expressed confusion about how I felt about a male friend of mine, and this player very calmly and patiently explained same-sex attraction to me. I'd gone to a private Catholic grade school and never had much information about queer anything to this point, so it was a bit of a shock to me.

Thankfully, this player was so patient and kind with me, talking about their own identity as an adult gay man, how happy they were, what their life is like, and really helping me to understand that it's normal, it's healthy, and in many ways it's fun.

I think back on that encounter occasionally and I think about how genuinely impactful and helpful it was for me. We didn't talk for very long, but it left such a lasting impact on how I view myself. Without it, I may have lived with a lot of shame and confusion for a lot longer.

Sometimes I wonder where he is, and if he knows how much of an impact he had.

I had a few other interactions on MMOs that were similar, after this encounter, trying to find other people like me who I could look up to. Surprisingly, many people were very friendly to me and willing to talk about their lives and explain things. It was my very first interaction with the community, and it was all virtual through games. So many people helped me out when I was experiencing a lot of confusion. I wish I'd had that help in real life, but at least I did find it somewhere.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 5 points 1 year ago

By "Lemmy app" do you mean "Jerboa for Lemmy"? Because I don't see any other apps on the Samsung app store. Maybe the official one is only for iPhone?

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 4 points 1 year ago

It'll be an adjustment to this new site, but I welcome the change. It seems healthier here.

[-] emeraldheart@beehaw.org 8 points 1 year ago

Just another gay fella joining the fediverse.

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