I don't know how you feel as I've never personally experienced losing a job, but I emphasize with what you might be going through. I've had friends and family that have gone through it (or going through it now). You are not your job. You are sooo much more. Losing a job may suck, but you will recover and be better from it (even if it takes time).

Thanks. That's actually a bit helpful. I think I'm similar to you on the "tick the box" feeling

I hear you on the lack of controlled/curated environment. I know that with a scheduled routine I'm least forgetful, but my brain starts screaming about the "monotony" of the routine.

Welcome back old friend. I missed you 😜

We've tried rolling back multiple times in a couple of different ways. They all end up failing. From what we have seen through it all, Lemmy doesn't support downgrading/rolling back

And here I am from the generation of "resistance is futile" 😜

Somewhere in Providence. Not exactly sure. I have an uncle that has like 5 acres of land up in a wooded area. He built his driveway like an "S" so you can't see the house from the street.

I have family there

Welcome to the community. We are glad you found us

They prefer the personal connection you can build in-person. Also, one of them mentioned the lack of ability for the counselor to be able to read body language in a video call as well as they could in-person

It’s hard to not be tough on yourself. Look at the positives though. Not every day has to have a “I saved a baby from a burning building” win in it. Sometimes we need to celebrate the small stuff too

Something else to consider here would be some kind of batching. A system doing this check should group users together by instance and make a single call to that instance. Something like: "Hey, I have this list of users from your instance. Are they all still active? A, B, C, D..." Reply: "From your request, here is the list of users that I found in my database: A, D". Now the calling system would know it should remove all data for users B & C.