My opinion: people need to chill. and also to understand that English is used by different people in various contexts. Not everybody grasps the subtleties of the language. For instance, if discussing something like "a product highly recommended for our discreet female audience" or stating "no problems have been encountered in the department for female prisoners" is considered appropriate, somebody might feel that writing "To look at a female's behind" (as seen in the original r/therewasanattempt post) is also acceptable. And it's no big deal.
Also, it's a typical Anglo-Saxon harry potteresque 
magical thinking, and obsession, with language, magic words and formulations. Censoring words just make them stronger. Stop being fucking puritains stupid ameriremoved. Scarlet letters never work. Changing words doesn't change the world, activism about language is just slacktivism to feel smug and superior, and ultimately keeping the status quo as it is.
it's so beautiful, thank you for sharing it.
but i don't see it related to the post at all... OP's post feels like serfdom apology? it's super weird honestly. It's not freedom if it's not a choice.
My reading of Tagore's poem is like: different choices and conditions develop two different worldviews, two solitudes that they could not "explain to each other". But they still loved each other. And - in my reading - the bird in the cage in the end doesn't have "the strength to soar". I feel there is some social commentary behind, probably about colonialism and some "comfort". But I really don't know.
Thank you again for sharing. Long ago I read Charulata, and it was so powerful and beautiful. I should definitely read more by Tagore.