I don't think this is something you can fix for her, however you can ask her in more detail what exactly she expects of you when she thinks of the idea of you making her more comfortable with her sexuality.

When it comes to the ways that she initiates, it could be that this (blowing air etc) is the language she is comfortable with for now... And you should accept it as a sign that she actually is initiating contact. It's just not in the way you think.

I think the post isnt getting enough... traction

That last part is precisely what a hindu text (the bhagwad gita) says. That to meditate on focusing on the unmanifest and abstract element is hard to conceive for the average human. Thus it is recommended to fixate the mind towards the humanised form of "god"

In that way i found the text to be quite self-aware