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this post was submitted on 10 Apr 2024
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From my own past and trauma, in my personal experience it's because my parents, family, ex friends/ partners that whenever they complimented me it's always because it's not true but instead they used it to manipulate me into doing something.
So whenever someone compliments me my brain automatically suspects there trying to harm me, even if I know that's not rational.
While I did not go through any kind of things that you have, though I did meet a few people who tried to use my own abilities against me in order to feel above me, sometimes I do suspect if the compliments I'm getting are genuine or not. I just toss those kind of thoughts away immediately. Most of the time it doesn't even come to suspecting the compliments. I disregard them.