Were the insults necessary or did they add anything useful to your comment?

As for the actual question in your comment, though your quick follow-up to insults suggests you meant it as a rhetorical question and just wanted to assume they were doing the same thing as they were criticizing, "fricken" (or "friggen") was used in many cases by kids who were scared of getting in trouble for using "real" swear words. Which was the whole point of that comment: kids who were afraid to really swear casually used "retard" and many adults who would lose their shit over "fucking" didn't bat an eye at "retard". And even when they did, it was because of the insult to the one called "retard". If anyone brought up mentally disabled people, it was more about furthering the insult rather than actually caring how they felt.

The other said what needed to be said. Do you talk to anyone the way you do? You do realize you're talking to real people with real life experiences. And if you used any critical thought you'd understand the innocence of using the word "fricken" or "friggen" in my comment was to illustrate that in our child community growing up, we used the retard word along with that. And it was almost never used to call someone that, it was used to call a situation that. Like "that's retarded let's not do that".

And yeah I don't use that word anymore as an adult.