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[-] OttoVonNoob@lemmy.ca 115 points 3 months ago

There's no shame in changing your mind, there is no shame in needing help, there is no shame in self improvement, try to love yourself as a whole and work towards changing the things you don't love.

[-] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 39 points 3 months ago

That changing your mind is so key. Often times people attach personal value to opinions as though they're related.

The ego gets involved when it should fuck right off.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 4 points 3 months ago

Sometimes people around them don’t make it any easier. If people around a person immediately show contempt to a person who admits they were wrong, it enforces a microculture where change is going to be harder and more painful than necessary.

[-] noobdoomguy8658@feddit.de 3 points 3 months ago

This is a real problem with changing your mind.

I can't believe how many times I've been told I've changed when I no longer found something funny or said something that I wouldn't have in my teen years.

One of the longest-running opinions of mine that hasn't been disproved yet is that many people just don't really mature or age mentally, it seems; they just grow older, without accumulating much if any wisdom.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

Some grow wiser, but one of the lessons of my 20s has been you have to do it on purpose. I’m not wiser than I was 5 years ago on accident.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 2 points 3 months ago

You can also love the parts you’re going to change, as you change them. You don’t have to turn off the love to do surgery.

[-] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago

That’s very true. I routinely change the parts of me I love. I try to make them better. I’m a kind and loving person, but I’m trying to change that from a selfless form to a self preserving form. To know my limits and stop pouring from an empty cup.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 3 months ago

You can even love the parts you are saying goodbye to. Not improving, but eliminating. You never have to turn off the love at all ever for anything.

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