Two hours ago I made a post to !libertyhub@lemmy.blahaj.zone about US politics. I had previously had a good relationship with the head moderator of this community. They've encouraged My political posts, and he's removed comments by people that misgendered Me, and reminded people of My pronouns, like in this thread two days ago:
However, an hour ago in this new thread, the same moderator who was telling people to respect My capitalised pronouns uses lowercase pronouns to address Me:
And he has left up earlier comments which also seemed to misgender Me, and which I specifically pointed out:
Even as some users in the thread gender Me correctly:
I'm making this thread in the main community because since the mod has banned Me, I can no longer report the comment or leave a reply correcting the pronoun. I would like to gain the attention of @ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
Misgendering trans people and banning Them at the same time so They can't do anything about it is not the kind of thing I expect to see on Blahaj. This mod is clearly 100% aware of My pronouns, and made a choice here. I suppose they could be using the general "you", but it just doesn't look like that, what with banning Me, telling Me My post isn't welcome, and telling Me to go to a different community. I used to have a good rapport with this mod, they said several times that they valued My posts. I posted something he disagrees with, and now all of a sudden respecting trans people's pronouns isn't a priority anymore. He's misgendering Me and they're leaving up comments that also misgender Me. It feels targeted.
EDIT: I cannot seem to embed images. Every time I hit edit and fix the image links and press save, they change to some kind of aussie.zone image proxy link. For now I have left them as links without embedding them.
I gotcha Fam for those embedded pics
In order:
I'd assume that the mod in question (being a mod) sees a ton of posts and comments from a ton of users and simply didn't check Your profile before making the comment there.
Or hell it could have been their autocorrect dropping the capital (which mine does pretty often)
But from what I can see it's also a single comment. Don't assume malice when ignorance can easily explain it.
And that mod is really quick to ban people, hell they banned me last week less than a minute after I made a comment on one of their posts simply for saying that dems and the GQP weren't the same (their post was implying that they were the same). The reason they banned me was for being a "liberal".
Personally I'd recommend a solution to help weed out transphobia vs ignorance: put Your‡ pronouns at the end of your username so that it's easy for people to know and talk to you how you'd like. This is fairly easy to do on Lemmy as flairs at the end of usernames don't really exist around these parts.
‡ I literally had to go back and manually change this to a capital Y after my autocorrect changed it.
Edit: Missed some caps.
Weird, I can't see the embeds in your comment either. Maybe aussie.zone just doesn't support them. It doesn't support a very long display name either, maybe I should change instances.
I've been posting to Liberty Hub every day for around a week, and this mod has been responding to a lot of My posts. They seemed to have a firm grasp of who I was every other time they commented on one of My posts. And the post they commented on here, it was a link to My blog, so if they read it, they should know who I am, right?
Here are some of their other comments on My posts:
https://imgur.com/8cWH9WY.png - https://aussie.zone/post/11567153/10314640
https://imgur.com/s2gYmSM.png - https://aussie.zone/post/11497681/10240630
He's never not known who I was before, he's always used My preferred pronouns. If this is a coincidence, it's a bizarre one, and it's one I can't fix without making this post, because the day he suddenly misgenders Me is the day he bans Me.
I wouldn't call it a bizarre coincidence at all. Typos happen literally all the time to everyone.
A single error doesn't make a trend, a pattern of errors does.
And again that mod shoots from the hip on bans. I'd say seize the opportunity to take some time off and cool off.
Getting banned from a community can really make someone salty at the moment it happens and taking the opportunity to chill is the best course of action for one's mental health.
Even if it was a mistake, maybe Blahaj shouldn't have mods who shoot from the hip and end up banning trans people they accidentally misgendered. Maybe the position of moderator should entail some more responsibility to trans users. If it was a mistake, it was preventable.
Mod abuse goes as far back as the history of online moderators, that ain't going to be fixed any time soon.
But I really think You're looking way too into a missed capital letter and a ban for violating the rules of a community.
I wouldn’t be surprised if the reason that he missed the capital in that comment is because he copied it from another comment he made or because writing that response has become so automated for him that he didn’t think about changing pronoun. It’s not an excuse but it’s more likely than it being intentional misgendering.
That community gets overrun by people saying to vote for Biden or defending Biden’s actions so it’s a lot of work to remove all those comments (there’s a lot of space on blahaj to voice those opinions and in my experience not much space to voice critique outside of libertyhub so I’m in favour of banning those comments there in order to elevate opinions that get suppressed elsewhere). It means that mistakes are easily made, and to make it themselves easier the mods there probably ban people for comments that they consider to be in a grey area because it reduces the workload.
If being the only anti-biden community on Lemmy means misgendering trans people then maybe there shouldn't be an anti-Biden community. If somebody is going to host a community like that, it should be someone who can do so without transphobia.
That’s not what I wrote though.
It's kinda what you did tho.
Absolutely false. You can voice any opinion you like in most communities here. Including blatant transphobia, according to what I see in this thread with the people hating on OP. Liberal Hub is the only place that bans people for any remotely left-wing opinion.
I’ve been (temp) banned from a 196 for openly not supporting Biden. Denying and hiding the fact that there are a lot of queer leftists who do not support Biden is erasure so I think it’s actually extremely important to have a community that is explicitly for those voices that get erased elsewhere. You won’t see many posts there encouraging others not to vote for Biden (in fact, I believe a lot of frequent posters there intent to vote for him if he doesn’t step out). So the way you’re framing the discourse in that community is just blatantly false.
I do agree that there are a lot of comments on this post that are transphobic which is inexcusable. I also think that you specifically are using this situation to try to mischaracterise a person you already clearly dislike. OP is justified in being hurt and frustrated by the fact that They were misgendered and couldn’t call out the mistake. You’re taking it much further by saying that the mod in question wants to genocide queer people because he used the wrong pronoun 1 time.
Honestly by now it should be pretty clear for anyone reading your comment history that you’re not open to people having a different way to oppose the current genocide that is going on and are happy use lies (a lot) to put your point forward and to try to silence others.
I would like to resolve this issue, please contact me on Discord (username: kittenzrulz)
have you ever talked with LOC or are you just this mad for parasocial reasons?