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[-] avattar 9 points 3 months ago

It makes a lot of sense when you put in like that, and makes me feel like helping people instead of ignoring/hating/looking down on them. How did you get these insights? Are you in the field of psychology?

[-] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world 11 points 3 months ago

As for helping - I think that once they get far enough down the path, there's probably not much you can do for them. But compassion is always a good thing no matter who you spend it on.

As is sparing a thought for the poorly-socialised, and for the lack of opportunities people have to just hang out in any kind of casual social setting, if you're not already part of a friend group.

Someone works a shit job in a dingy office with three people they hate and no general public flowing through, they're exhausted at the end of the day and even if they had a place to go they just want to go home. Weekends are for laundry and chores and recovering from the week - and besides, what are they going to do, head to some bar and spend all their money drinking alone, just getting aloner?

Most of the opportunities out there rely on having either a pre-existing set of people to hang out with, or enough acquired charisma that they wouldn't be in that situation in the first place.

Our society really needs to lower the barrier to entry for this stuff, but I have no idea how you'd go about that.

[-] SwingingTheLamp@midwest.social 4 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago)

Our society really needs to lower the barrier to entry for this stuff, but I have no idea how you'd go about that.

I know. At least in the US. It sounds wonky, but think it through: Cars and zoning law. Between the two of those things, there are fewer and fewer third places. There's nowhere to go to just be around other people. First (home) and second (edit: work) are incredibly isolated, too. You get in the car and pull out of the garage, and interact with nobody until you pull in to the lot at work. At best, you interact briefly with fast food workers for a few seconds at the drive-thru window. There's no "local," no stores, no restaurants, no cafés in the neighborhood; you drive to those. They draw from a large area, so you never see the same people twice there.

Proximity has always been the best builder of community in human history, and we've done away with it.

[-] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world 10 points 3 months ago

Nah, I'm just old - and I was the weird homeschooled kid; there but for sheer blind undeserved luck go I.

[-] chilicheeselies@lemmy.world 5 points 3 months ago

A little empathy goes a long way. There are some truely shit evil people in the world, but most people are good people who werent given the same chances, lost their way, etc.

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