what is everyone's sexuality here? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by Bicyclejohn@lemmy.ml to c/lgbtq_plus@beehaw.org

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I'm just a bi guy. I found out pretty recently

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[-] nd_nb@beehaw.org 2 points 2 years ago

I think the concept of sexuality needs to go away, tbh. I'm not straight because I am attracted to EVERY guy. And I'm not a lesbian because I am attracted to every woman. So what am I saying when I say that I am straight or gay?

The info I am giving then is who I am NOT attracted to. If I say I'm straight, I'm just saying 'I'm not attracted to women'. I'm not saying 'I'm attracted to every man.'

So I think the concept of sexuality is pretty stupid and everyone should just like whoever they like. It creates a lot of confusion otherwise, with straight and gay people worrying about whether they're 'doing sexuality right'. It's nonsense. Bin it.

[-] Andreas@feddit.dk 5 points 2 years ago

I'm confused as to where you got the idea that having a sexuality means you're attracted to every single person of a certain sex. It just means that you can be attracted to people of that sex. I'm bisexual but I have standards, I'm not attracted to every person on earth. Sexuality categorization is useful to quickly contextualize discussions about sex and relationships in this world where heterosexual is assumed to be the default unless explicitly specified otherwise. Doing away with sexuality would only add confusion and wasted time. For example: looking for advice in gay dating but receiving advice about straight dating (that doesn't apply to gay dating because the cultures and dynamics are very different) when there's no terminology to tell them apart.