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Most men never report, or if they do it's ignored. I've only told one person irl about the 2x it's happened to me (both times I was forced by women btw, how's that for "it's always men" hmm?)
MAYBE if whenever we claim "it's all men" or "it's always men" or some such sentiment "it always devolves into a discussion about how it's not all men," MAYBE it's time to stop doing that so the conversation can fucking progress? Nah let's keep up the tribalism, it's more fun to sow division than actually work on the issue at hand. Ffs.
I think it's more that as a non rapist I don't really take it personally when women talk about concerns about the general attitude they receive from men.
As a non-rapist, I'm sick of constantly being seen as a high-risk individual just for having a penis despite dedicating a lot of attention to consent and being generally a highly empathetic person.
People who know me well trust me and see me as a very safe and gentle person - but in the outside world, I'm equated with rapists around a random trait.
well yeah. are you suggesting women should just trust you because you seem nice? their interactions with men from the moment they first set foot out their door suggests otherwise. to them you are high risk until they know you. you admit that once people know you they do trust you do why are you being so offended that people who don't know you don't? they shouldn't.
you shouldn't trust any woman that she won't do anything bad to you either, but the fact remains that you're in much less of a risk in that regard than a random woman around a random man. the mere notion that this is in any way an equivalent risk is ridiculous.
The thing is, the amount of fear displayed against men is disproportional to the actual risk they pose. This probably has cultural roots, as awareness of such risks turned into an overreaction.
More and more research comes out showing women are fully capable of abusive behavior and display it much more often that we've come to believe, yet as little light is shed on this in the public eye, women are still perceived as much more safe, which isn't true either.
And besides, "men" are too big and diverse of a group to reasonably tie to any possible behavior.
I specifically noted that I don't believe in any essential differences between men and women. this is all societal, and patriarchy plays a big role not only in the predation of women but also men and the subsequent lack of reporting.
but in the current society women are safer than men. I have never set foot out my door and considered the possibility of being sexually harassed. women do it every time, and no, not just because our perceptions are skewed, but because we have different experiences.
this is anecdotal because i can't do studies. most of the time defenses are put up by women because they actually go through something. not because they start life that way.
And I specifically meant to say we gain ever increasing knowledge that women are not safer in many regards - not just inherently, but overall. While brute-force attacks against men are less common, harassment, coercion, mental abuse and manipulations are rampant, and are weaponized against everyone, including strangers. (With that being said, some women, especially armed, do engage in direct physical abuse, and men can use mental one).
And I wonder what part of fears average woman faces is personal experience vs culture and upbringing. Same events can be interpreted in many different ways depending on how you are preconditioned, and if we'd train men to be wary of women, we'd certainly see more fears spread around. (Mind you, I do not say women do not face real and clear instances of abuse; some do!)
Well maybe it takes being raped by two different woman before you start feeling bad about being called a rapist for existing with penis despite being a victim. In any case your feelings are not universal and you don't get to minimize my experiences and tell me how to feel about being categorized with the aggressors while the people who raped ME are categorized with the "only victims who can do no wrong" gender.
this doesn't at all follow my comment so I assume you replied by accident. you're just airing grievances, which is your right, but it's a non sequitur.
Basically what I'm saying is, maybe you don't take it personally because you haven't been raped by women before, but I do take it personally because I have.