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Is it that she doesn't like the sensation or she just can't cum? It may be too "intense" so you can try stimulating near the clit with a vibrator instead of directly on.
Try G spot simulation- use a couple of fingers in a "come hither" motion inside. Maybe try that after having piv sex as she may be more turned on. Be communicative together.
Try other erogenous zones like nipples and neck simultaneously as clitoral stimulation and/or g spot.
Use toys in all configurations.
It seems that her clitoris is more like a regilar sensitive area with no pleasure option. What I mean is that it is still a sensitive are (less then other people IME) but absolutely nothing about it, no matter the mood, foreplay, or stimulation is pleasurable for her, at best it's tolerable.
Hm. Sounds like something to bring up to a doctor actually. If she's comfortable and willing. She could have a birth defect or could have had surgery in the area that could have damaged nerves, or she was injured and damaged nerves.
The clitoris is larger than what you see and it might be able to be stimulated from elsewhere if it isn't injured.
In the meantime try for the g spot and vibrators everywhere until you maybe find something that works.
But yeah, worth mentioning to a doctor.
A doctor is probably not an option unless something serious happens, but thank you for the concern and suggestions ๐
It's interesting because I have always that way too. Nothing is wrong to my knowledge...it's just the way I am. Do you think she might be on the asexual spectrum?
I don't think she is, her sex drive is actually kind of high and she has sexual fantasies, initiates often, etc