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[–] disguy_ovahea@lemmy.world 1 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (42 children)

I think they meant sucking dick like kissing ass, not like sucking dick as a form of punishment. I don’t think it was intended to be homophobic.

[–] Acemod@lemmy.world 0 points 3 months ago (16 children)

Yeah, not sure how they didn't pick up on that.

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 7 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (15 children)

I picked up on your intentions, believe me, but the origins for why it is insulting is rooted in shame, misogyny, and homophobia. To copy my comment:

"Sucking dick" as an insult is homophobic because the root is in shame. Shame, because sexual favors are seen as "subservient," which also has roots in misogyny. Given that I display my pronouns as he/they, it's pretty clearly directed in a manner that tried to depict me in a "shameful" position giving sexual favors to men.

Given that I am also pansexual, this is worse, though they had no way to know.

Tangentially, "kissing ass" has similar roots. Further still, even after having it pointed out, they defended their actions. Certainly not actions I would want a moderator of queer communities to have.

[–] HikingVet 0 points 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) (1 children)

So the fact that the LGBTQ+ didn't get equal rights there until after Fidel's death isn't an issue for you?

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 8 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Of course it is, now Cuba is more progressive for queer people than the vast majority of the world, including the US. I never once said Castro was a saint free of any sin.

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