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Considering detransition after 15+ years due to danger and bigotry (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 1 week ago by Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I'm an older transguy and "pass" very well but I'm considering detransition due to the dangers of the world. I'm in the US and it's no secret that trans people are being targeted. I've been considering if it would be worthwhile to stop testosterone, don a wig, and play dress-up as a woman until this trans witch hunt is over.

I'm solid in my identity, not depressed or panicked. I've been in many dangerous situations in my life and know how it feels to make decisions strictly for survival. I know I can withstand detransitioning temporarily or permanently if needed. Not being on T and dressing a certain way won't make my identity any less true or valid.

I'm at the age where I really don't care what my outer appearance is or how people perceive me as long as I'm safe.

I could use some feedback from the kind folks here, especially any older transguys.

Disclaimer: no part of this is meant to imply that there is a right or better path for my other trans bros, sisters, and siblings. There is no right way to be your true self beyond what you deem it.

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[–] RedSeries@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 week ago

From a trans woman's perspective (mine), I think you'd be better off remaining and presenting as yourself. Both from a practical safety standpoint and a moral standpoint. Much of the legislation is targeted against trans women currently, so trying to present femme after going through such a long masculine transition will likely get you put in that bucket and put you in more danger. From a moral perspective, you should not have to hide who you are.

I think it's very valid to want to stop for safety right now. I've thought a lot about that too. Maybe you had the chance to be you for long enough, that you forgot just how terrible it was to hide before? I am not a passing trans woman, and although it's terrifying, even the worst days like this are better than most of my good pre- transition days.

Either way, make the choice that's best for you. We all have different degrees of support available and are facing varying degrees of threats (I'm in a blue state for example). Please be safe. If you ever need to vent or talk, consider my DMs open.