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Thinking about getting another cat (lemmygrad.ml)

submitted 3 months ago by Makan@lemmygrad.ml to c/comradeship@lemmygrad.ml

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I realize that I love my cat.

But I want another one for her.

Should I go for it?

I feel like it will help be a new beginning for me.

I just feel bad about something and guilt eats me up right now. I, well, caused a problem for my own Mom and have hurt our relationship. And I realize that now. We've talked about it some. We're fine, right now, but I... feel the guilt, dammit.

Regardless, I want to at least help my current cat by giving her a new companion.

Ugh, I feel silly saying it.

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[–] bunbun@lemmygrad.ml 6 points 3 months ago (2 children)

This is a great idea! Especially if your cat mainly lives indoors. Then your place becomes the entire world, the entire source of experiences for the animal. So whenever you're not around, or can't spend time socializing together, there's nothing to generate new stimuli. And if there was a friend, then they could always provide something new for each other and live much more fulfilling lives together.

It's also your responsibility to make sure that the relationship is healthy. Cats can be very jealous of the time and attention you spend on a new one, not used to interacting with other cats/animals/people, or just afraid of change in general. So I would recommend starting by fostering a cat of a similar age for a while. Then you could either keep the foster if they vibe together, or broaden your cat's horizons and probably have better luck with the next one.

There's nothing silly in caring about the well-being of someone you're responsible for.

[–] Makan@lemmygrad.ml 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm trying to get my cat to walk outside a bit, but no dice. They don't like the harness. I'm getting another one.

There’s nothing silly in caring about the well-being of someone you’re responsible for.

I lived under an abusive father that was pretty superficial in their outlook, I think. I sometimes wonder if certain things I do are just "too silly."

[–] Catfish@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 3 months ago

Oh right I forgot about fostering! That's a very good idea for finding a cat that's the right fit for your other pets!