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Who of you want or don't want children? I am just curious because most people that I talk to don't seem to want it. I mean leftist (lemmy.ml)

submitted 3 days ago by Confidant6198@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/27368980

I am curious if the majority of leftist people don't actually want children haha. There doesn't seem to be any studies about it, but my convos with leftists is that most don't seem to want to have children either for the uncertainty of the future or because they are too expensive or because it wouldn't give them too much time to organize or whatever other reason that I forgot about.

I personally lean on not having children because I have been laid off of several jobs and having someone financially dependent to me scares the shit out of me and would put my stress levels through the roof.

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[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't have kids because I've never especially liked them, and I think it's morally wrong to have kids if you don't like or want them.

[–] Bloomcole@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

morally wrong?

[–] swelter_spark@reddthat.com 3 points 1 day ago

In my experience, many people who don't like or want kids choose to have them for other reasons: family pressure, trying to improve a romantic relationship, feeling like it's the next step in life, etc. The children born as a result spend the rest of their lives with parents who don't or can't meet their emotional and/or physical needs. To me, that's deeply morally wrong.

[–] TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not OP, but absolutely.

You are bringing a human life into existence a decision they have no say in.

[–] Bloomcole@lemmy.ml -2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

So NO children should be born ever since you can't ask for consent?

[–] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 2 points 1 day ago

Read it again maybe?

[–] TonyOstrich@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

That's not what I would infer from my statement and in conjunction with OPs. Neither of us want or are interested in children. I wasn't talking about all people, I'm talking about myself, OP, and maybe anyone who doesn't want children.

I think it would be morally wrong to bring a life into the world if I wasn't prepared to put their needs and wants above my own and care for them to the best of my ability, and I would not be capable of doing so if I didn't want them in the first place.