about adapting to frugal lifestyle after an incomebreakdown 🫠
my adhd is giving me a hard time not spending for any impulsive ideas but I am left with only round about a quarter of my former income and I can't adapt well. I had enough before and since half a year I don't, but my brain wants to spent money like before.
we don't eat expensive, but we snack expensive. i usually don't buy a lot of clothes but I lost a lot of weight and most doesn't fit anymore (and I'm going to look for a new job soon, so I need at least one proper outfit).
we got a cat and a dog, which had super heavy health scares last year. so I pay for the insurances instead of waiting for the worst. the dog is allergic af and I have to buy expensive special food.
i am a single parent and have to take care of the teenagers needs as well.
I'm going to sell my car soon, because I just have to to get by. social aid doesn't pay anything at this point because I was couple of bucks over the limit so far. But they don't consider the high debt I got. So I'm actually pretty concerned right now. i used to be poor before, so I kinda know I will get over this episode, but it terrifies me at this point.
long story short:
i need a network of no-buy-buddies that helps keep me from spending too much. anyone out there?
I wish you all the best. I'm not intimately familiar with Germany's social systems but I assume they're better than most of North America's. See if there is government assistance you can get or what you might qualify for. Maybe you're not there yet, but maybe some is available to you.
Good luck and keep your head up.