Did you report the offending comments? Reply to them and ask them to be nice? We aren't running a panopticon here and the reality is that many people who register here, even when they explicitly say they will be nice, occasionally exhibit not nice behavior. I don't think defederating will solve the problem, but rather more aggressive reporting, more people stepping up to help moderate, and perhaps most importantly people nicely reminding each other to be nice and steering conversations in the right direction are the only levers we have at our disposal.

I remember that thread. First time I saw a Beehaw post that didn't feel quite right. Top comment was a passive aggressive "oh so we're doing the whole ask before even trying thing now huh," like why do some people just feel the need to talk shit? And if there is a legitimate criticism it shouldn't be difficult to voice it in a constructive way - and if it is difficult for you then you shouldn't comment and further spread your negative feelings.

As gaywallet already mentioned, please report comments you think to be mean, unhelpful, or in bad faith. We did get reports on some comments in that thread and took action. I personally am a fan of federating with other instances. We do definitely see outside users often being instigators, but not all users are like that, so being able to mod effectively is key for us