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A collection of some classic Lemmy memes for your enjoyment
Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.
An average guy who shoots his shot is practically already above average. Most don't shoot their shot, or very very timidly with maximum safety
Yep, it's an easy win for the average guy. But most won't do it because they're afraid of rejection.
Or is it because we've been told that women are sick of being hit on all the time?
And thus, we are afraid of rejection.
You're right that women are sick of being hit on all the time. But I'll let you in on a secret: it's not the expression of interest that annoys women, it's when dudes ignore the cues that they're not interested and continue anyway, or can't take no for an answer. Basically, women are sick of guys who don't pay attention to their boundaries and can't take rejection. But I guarantee you, women are just as horny as men, and love getting attention from a man who is aware of their boundaries and who won't push when they express a boundary.
This doesn't make any sense. So we should ignore the cues that they're not interested and take our shot anyway, even though men ignoring signs of disinterest is annoying, and they love getting attention from men who pay heed to their boundaries when the boundary is not wanting our attention? Or should we take no for an answer and handle rejection gracefully by not hitting on them when they're not interested, because that's the proper way to hit on women?
Let me simplify it for you: pay attention to social cues. It's not hard.
So which is it? Pay attention to social cues, or ignore them and take a shot anyway?
Use your own brain, I'm not gonna do the work for you.
If you can't explain it, then it's not all that simple. Maybe don't denigrate millions of men as "too afraid of rejection," eh?
That last one is a complete lie. It absolutly is hard. Especially with the complete lack of proper communication skills most women display. Seriously, a lot of women consider "looking at you" maximum flirting effort. Except of course when they aren't and are just randomly looking in your direction.
It's the expression of interest by unattractive people that is annoying. Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do.
But often the person is perfectly attractive, it's just that the person they are hitting on is not interested and they don't take the hint. For example, as a straight man, I often get hit on by gay men. They're perfectly attractive men, it's just that I don't like men, and it has nothing to do with them being unattractive. I don't mind when a gay man expresses interest as long as he respects me saying that I'm not interested. It's when he continues to push, and ignores my closed body language and short answers, or outright dismisses my "no thanks", that's when it becomes uncomfortable, and that's what women are sick of too.
... did you read my comment? "Continuing past cues of disinterest is one of the most unattractive things you can do."
Behavior is part of attractiveness, it's not only physical.