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My wedding band (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
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It finally happened. I lost so much weight that my tungsten-carbide wedding band doesn't fit anymore. It's definitely a 'masculine' design and felt like a good idea at the time. But since that material can't be resized and all the add-on sizing options are still too big, I'm at a loss for what to do. My spouse and I are still absolutely happily married and intend to remain that way. If anything, I think we've grown closer since I came out! I don't want to simply discard something that means so much to us both. I was hoping to hold out on buying a new one until my transition got to a point to renew our vows with my new name (and in a gorgeous dress!) but I'm curious if anyone else has been through this before? I was considering a necklace to hold onto it until then. I was about to type that I didn't want others to get the wrong impression about us (me with no ring, my spouse with the engagement ring and the band) out together but then I realized we're likely going to get awkward looks for a while anyway.

So, what do others think? What have you done if you've reached this point? Am I overthinking this?

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[โ€“] dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Pre-transition, I just wore cheap silicone rings because they were pragmatic.

As soon as my egg cracked, before I was passing or on HRT, my partner put a ring on my finger and had it resized to fit my fingers. Around 8 months-ish on HRT had to get it resized again when my fingers became slimmer.

Honestly, I think it's mostly a matter of money, your gender presentation, and how much this matters to you and your partner.

I was fortunate that my spouse already had a ring on hand, I was already socially transitioned and presenting as fem full time, and I was fortunate enough to be able to afford the resizing - so it all worked out for me.

If I hadn't fully socially transitioned, I might have only worn the ring in certain situations.

If I didn't have the money, I might have waited and saved up money for just one resizing.

If we didn't already have a ring, we might have waited and saved up for a ring.

It's up to you and your circumstances, though - there is no one way to handle this. ๐Ÿ˜Š