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My Recommendations Always Get Ignored (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago by Tatar_Nobility@lemmy.ml to c/chat@hexbear.net

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No one ever reads or watches what I recommend (that's a lie, one person does). I usually don't expect others to engage with my interests, I wouldn't hold a grudge if they don't. But it upsets me when this occurs in the event of exchanging recommendations with someone who ends up not reciprocating. This has happened on four separate occasions with different people. While I'd actually read the book, give my opinion and genuinely engage with them, they would postpone doing so and constantly make excuses until they think I've forgotten. One time I made a promise with a friend to watch a series of their choice and vice versa, guess who did and who didn't (“My internet connection is so bad” you're literally watching other shows as we speak...)

This begs the question: are my recommendations this bad? I'd like to put that to the test. Here are the recommendations in question:

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[–] kivork@lemmygrad.ml 21 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

I don't think it has anything to do with the quality of your recommendations. People have limited time. With Avatar - you are asking that someone commit to 3 seasons of a children's show that they probably already understand the gist of through its place in culture.

From their perspective - I think in the moment it sounds exciting to get a recommendation and feel like you'll definitely make time for it but then you get home and it's the next day and you'd rather spend your limited time on your own stuff.

I'm sorry that they aren't reciprocating but unfortunately there really isn't a solution here. This will be the case with the vast majority of recommendations your whole life. I wouldn't read too much into it.