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I've experienced it both ways, when I'm not drinking I've had people try to pressure me into drinking and people act like they're morally superior because they don't drink. It's just pressure to conform to the social norms are in whatever environment.
i was in a social situation where friend of friend i just met offered to buy me a drink and i said "i'm good for now" which is my default response to halt further questioning and they looked at me like i insulted their entire family lineage.. i wonder if they thought i was judging them for drinking based off my tone or something but i just didn't want to give off any vibe that i was open for interrogation
In that situation I can see how they could take "I'm good for now" to mean more that you do drink and you're specifically turning down having a drink with them.