Dull Men's Club
An unofficial chapter of the popular Dull Men's Club.
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While it can certainly wear a person down at times. Take a moment to appreciate the purpose and fulfilment you get from doing all of that.
Once upon a time, I did a lot too. After my broken neck and back, the hardest adjustment was pulling back the reigns and acknowledging my limits are only a tiny fraction of what I used to accomplish.
We kinda have a culture that focuses on the pressures and acknowledging how they can overwhelm and consume a person if not kept in check. That is good; that is healthy. However, it is easy to also miss out on the value of accomplishment and the feelings of purpose in life.
I never really noticed or understood why older people often tell stories about things like their big house renovation projects of the past instead of things they are interested in or would like to accomplish in the present. After disability struck prior to middle age for me, I find myself often doing the same story telling.
With great capacity for accomplishing large projects comes a hopeful optimism hiding under the surface and driving a person to attempt something large or daunting. Eventually, that capacity fades. If it fades gradually, I believe the rate of decline likely softens the negative impacts and masks the contrasting richness of life and purpose created by such accomplishments. You have plenty of time to relax and still do much, but don't forget to take pause and appreciate the now. The biggest challenges are often eventually twisted by the mind into the fondest of memories after the passing of enough time.