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‘I don’t date at all now’: one woman’s journey into the darkest corners of the manosphere
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 30 Apr 2025
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Yeah how dare she get her personal photos spread across the internet and get sexually harassed!
This is the most incel take and just kind of proves her point
You'd have a point if she didn't willingly give the pictures up to the shitty male that shared them.
And you would have a point if the man was an openly shitty person. For all you knew this was an otherwise respectable dude who still shared nudes of his partner. You can't always tell shitty dudes ahead of time. Sometimes you can only know them when they are being shitty dudes.
Instead, you don't have a point, you're just looking to blame the victim.
He doesn't even have to be 'openly shitty.' He just has to be 'average' or 'typical' and that should be enough to set off alarm bells because the current dating landscape rewards shitty males while punishing good ones.
It's a cultural problem. I'm not going to give the average male the benefit of the doubt because most average males I've come across in my life fall into the category of 'shitbag womanizer.'
We need to stop enabling them and start educating people on how to make better decisions on who they associate with.
And also start educating the average, shitbag womanizer males to not be that. We could teach them to be normal.
We shouldn't expect bad people to do the right thing because otherwise they wouldn't be bad people. Do you honestly believe this person didn't know what he was doing when he did it? Of course he did, he just didn't care.
I know you like living in a fantasy land, but in the real world there are plenty of horrible people that only see others as stepping stones to get what they want. It's not the world I want to live in, but I would be willfully ignorant if I did not accept it.
You think the woman can change to be more responsible...
but you don't think the man can change to be less irritating.
Pulido, if you don't believe bad people can change, why bother with a society that keeps prisoners at all? Why not just kill them?
I think the male can change if he was forced to. Every time he succeeds in womanizing a victim, he has more reasons to stay the same.
Because I don't accept something as fact just because it's upvoted on reddit. Prisons aren't just for 'rehabilitation.' They are also for keeping ne'er-do-wells away from harming others.
Okay. Let's not let him succeed, then.
Yes, this is why prison is not an unsupervised room in your own house.
I guess it’s also the fault of the victims of abusive relationships then? A man getting abused by his wife or girlfriend should have just not gotten with her?
The point is you can’t know what someone’s like right away, sometimes not for a long while into a relationship.
And again, why are you blaming her and the person sharing the photos?
You either didn't read the article or have a definition of consent that honestly worries me:
But honestly that is somewhat besides the point. Even if she would have made the photos without any outside pressure and full consent that does not give anyone the right to distribute them against her wishes.
If I go to the bank and put my money into my a savings account I am not to blame if they turn around, use it to gamble and lose it all. I never agreed for them to use it in such a fashion even though I agreed for them to use it and it is not something I should have to expect from a bank.
You're right, it doesn't give them the right. Did you think I was implying that it did? You might want to brush up on your reading comprehension if that's the case.