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Years ago, in college, I was heading to a dinner with my GF's grandparents, and her father was driving w/ her sitting passenger and myself in the back seat.
The trip was ~1hr each way, and after 20-30 mins of their front-seat banter, it felt like a great chance to chime in (had spent a total of a few hours around her dad, felt it was a great opportunity to engage & build that relationship), so I began focusing on context cues to gauge my conversational entry point & topic โ ya know, like ya do.
Mind you, the stereo was on (weighted to the rear speakers, as usual) and the road noise certainly played a part (windows up, thankfully) but I was able to catch a few clues and decided on opening with a tangential quip, so I loaded a few solutions and fired from the hip.
"Did someone say 'Florida'? That mythical place that old, white folks go to die?"
/prolonged, increasingly discomfiting silence
/GF's father quickly changes the subject w/o mention of Florida topic nor implying my inclusion
Days later, GF asks "WTF were you thinking? The whole dinner was for my dad to discuss their decision to move to Florida.", and certain details of the entire dinner & its conversational scenes began to make sense. ๐ซฃ๐คฆ๐ผโโ๏ธ