That's awful - I'm sorry you had to experience that.

Yea absolutely, it's just a normal bodily reaction. I'd be lying if I said I don't notice it when women/female-presenting people don't wear a bra, but there really is nothing to it. I moreso welcome it because I feel like it's a way for them to reclaim the stigmatisation that comes with "revealing" their bodies. Of course without blatantly pointing to it - who am I to comment such a thing?

Thank you, I'm trying my best :). I guess such comments and analogies are a product of their time and should be left there. I feel like we've made so much progress collectively as a society, with exceptions proving the rule, that such comments, derogatory or demeaning language in general, don't usually show up that much in daily conversation and shouldn't overall. Then again, my view is likely skewed because I'm barely around men and most people I am around are also very much left-leaning just like I am, so the language we use is very considerate and thought out, if that makes sense.

Now that I talk of it, a thing that's been grinding my gears recently is that so many people on here seem to be ok with using the r-word in regular conversation. "R-word" this and "that's so r-word of you" that - like, why? It's just so unnecessary. Same goes for the f-word (gay slur). I thought we've been past this already?