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Have your parents ever said something so unhinged that you’re just left standing there like🧍‍♂️? (sh.itjust.works)

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Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

Like.....okay??? Thanks for the emotional receipt, I guess??

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 7 points 4 days ago (2 children)

Not as a kid, no.

And never when not in an altered state if consciousness.

But, my dad did hit me with a hell of a verbal punch when he was whacked out of his head post bypass surgery.

He was hallucinating hard, and it became necessary for him to be temporarily restrained for his and everyone else's safety. I wasn't letting random assholes lay hands on him so the nurses could do their job, so I did it. Wasn't difficult physically, and I know how to restrain people without hurting them.

Well, as the new dose of meds is kicking in after he's been secured, he comes out with "the wrong one died". My brother died before I was born, you see. As a toddler.

Like, it didn't really hurt, not like I would have thought it would. But the sheer shock of it was overwhelming. It let me know he was way more messed than I had thought, and it did hurt a little. Like, damn dude, wtf? The only reason it hurt a little was not being sure of it was only the situation, or if that thought had been in his head before and only came out because of the situation.

I rolled with it though. He has no recollection of most of those days. Just flashes of some of the hallucinations. No big deal long term, but it was disorienting in the moment for sure

[–] Nomad@infosec.pub 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Your feelings about this are still valid though. As a father of multiple kids: this might be the result of his own thoughts about one of his children dying that come out due to the medication and this is certainly not about you but about his grief. I would never give up any of my children for anybody else, not even if I ever lost a child (I think). They are prefect the way they are. And so are you. Never doubt a good dad loving his children. :)

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 4 days ago

That is a beautiful thing to say. Thank you :)