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[–] Lembot_0003@lemmy.zip 40 points 1 week ago (23 children)

Is that comeback considered "good"? Why? It doesn't even make any sense.

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 94 points 1 week ago (9 children)

The sort of men who come out with phrases like that are (almost universally) arseholes. Having a default response, that can be rolled out quickly, and hit at emotional sore spots is useful.

As for why it works, if they are willing to come out with that line, then either a massively misogynistic, or badly socially stunted and rude. Both will drive women away aggressively (and likely a lot of male friends).

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 week ago (8 children)

How often does that line happen? I can definitely see "What's your favorite song/album?", that's just making conversation based on a common interest. And it can be kinda disappointing if you thought you were gonna get to talk about a band you like, but the person just liked the design and hasn't even heard them.

But "Name 5 songs"? I thought that just happened in memes.

[–] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 31 points 1 week ago (1 children)

What do you think the memes were based on? Gatekeeping is a real thing, and the "name 5 songs" is a genuine thing they'd to to "test" people as "real" fans.

[–] agamemnonymous@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Seemed mostly like "What's your favorite song by them?" getting exaggerated, for the most part. I'm not saying gatekeeping never happens, I just wouldn't expect it to be anywhere near as common as sincere attempts to strike up conversation with a fellow fan.

[–] Susaga@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 week ago

I think how common it is depends on your gender. It's less common now that the gatekeeping assholes are shamed for it, but still.

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