So for starters she's a baby. She's objectively a cute baby (even people who dont like babies will mention it), and when she's not ruining my sleep/eardrums she does cute baby things. Got a picture of her holding hands with another baby at daycare and have been getting "jokes" about how I need to get a shotgun ever since. Mainly from my own father and father in law but also others. Been trying to come up with a good way to shut it down. I don't think anyone is actually expecting me to get a gun much less attempt to intimidate the first person brought home but I'm pretty tired of hearing it already and there's who knows how many years until a potential long term partner.
Not the first parent v grandparent thing I've had to deal with (never imagined how often parenthood would have me telling my own mother to "shut it" essentially...) but this is the first where I've been struggling with a good response. Maybe because she's still working on standing but I havent considered friends much less anything more yet...I've been going with the eyeroll and noncommittal grunts for now. Both grandpa's are loving, stubborn, and more than a little emotionally stunted.
Something along those lines might work. Not so much "adamantly" but yeah they're often repetitive, just part of who they are. The grandpas at least aren't meaning to come across as they are, which is why I haven't gone the direct confrontation route, from other experience that doesn't go well but well worded "snark" or sarcasm oddly enough seems to work. These are old brown men who have improved a lot over the years. Knowing how to confront them in a way that leads to a desired effect is a skill.
Idk maybe I'm not treating this with appropriate concern, my childhood was filled with older women telling me I'd be a lady killer when I grew up, pinching my cheeks, and asking to steal my eyelashes...