It always gives me pause when I see unattractive couples. I think "why are they attracted to each other? And how do they even feel attractive enough to be in the game? When I feel ugly I feel unattractive and completely lose my libido and desire to be with anyone else." Then I look at myself, conventionally attractive yet alone, because I have such high standards and/or crippling anxiety, and I remain alone. Which serves as yet another reminder not to judge other people, because they are better off happily living their lives without overthinking things.