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I genuinely don’t understand how people see social interaction as something beautiful or natural. To me it feels like pure obligation.

Even at work you are not really yourself. You are adjusting how you speak, how you act, and how you respond just to fit the role, satisfy your employer, and keep things smooth with colleagues. That constant switching can be exhausting.

Outside of work it does not feel that different. Conversations, replying, small talk, making plans, it can all feel more like maintenance than real connection.

Sometimes it feels like people are not actually enjoying it as much as they say. They are just used to it being the default way to live.

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not see the beautiful part everyone talks about.

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[–] mfed1122@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 1 day ago

Wow my homie. This is a really sad thing to read. I'm not very social myself, but what I do get, I love. Have you ever been in love with someone? Had a best friend? Maybe you've only ever encountered jerks and morons. I'll admit I only have found like 10 people my whole life that I really love interacting with. But for those I still am in touch with, it's like, one of the best things about life. It's up there with food, orgasms, and art. I only ever have authentic interactions. I aggressively cut off all fake people or stupid people with very high standards. But my few friends, I looooove them. It's crazy to me to see someone thinking like your post, because I consider myself a fairly hermetic person. I mean I agree most socializing is a painful waste of life. But that stuff isn't even worthy of being under the same banner as the good stuff. I really hope you can find someone you love spending time with. I would advise you that it is super worthwhile and not to think otherwise.