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Is social interaction actually enjoyable or just socially required? (lemmy.zip)

submitted 1 day ago by userreality@lemmy.zip to c/unpopularopinion@lemmy.world

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I genuinely don’t understand how people see social interaction as something beautiful or natural. To me it feels like pure obligation.

Even at work you are not really yourself. You are adjusting how you speak, how you act, and how you respond just to fit the role, satisfy your employer, and keep things smooth with colleagues. That constant switching can be exhausting.

Outside of work it does not feel that different. Conversations, replying, small talk, making plans, it can all feel more like maintenance than real connection.

Sometimes it feels like people are not actually enjoying it as much as they say. They are just used to it being the default way to live.

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not see the beautiful part everyone talks about.

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[–] Th4tGuyII@fedia.io 3 points 1 day ago

Honestly, I do feel you OP.

While I can tolerate large gatherings and small talk, I really don't enjoy them at all. It can be overwhelming and exhausting at times, and IMO I'd rather be at home alone than do those things.

The only reason I like where I work is because I get on really well with the two other people in my office.

And that leads to the kind of social interaction I actually enjoy - socialising and doing things in small groups with people I know well.

I'm not suggesting this'll be your panacea, but perhaps you need to find that for yourself. A small group of trusted friends you can just let yourself relax with.