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Don't use discord? Problem solved.
And I really am serious. We need to move away from platforms we have no control over and contribute to the problem.
Thanks, but that is a thoroughly unhelpful piece of advice.
So keep fighting the corporate entity and keep making things worse by supporting them?
I don't know what else to tell you. You have no control, so you get what you deserve by continuing to use it. And when you continue to use it, it keeps other people thinking they need to use it, and the pain continues. Its a classic it hurts when I do this, so the answer is "stop doing that".
Do you really need discord to be your chat server?
So to actually offer advice if you are determined to have a discord like experience: you could try Fluxer and if they implement the same restrictions you could try self hosting it.
Editing to add: Fluxer.app as the url.
I've already moved my gaming group to Matrix. But, and this might shock you, not every server I'm a member of consists entirely of myself and my close friends.
Probably the best advice you’ll get today
We probably shouldn't be using Discord but you've got to meet people where they're at. Telling someone to just drop a service when all of their connections are there is unhelpful at best.
What else are you supposed to tell them? Its like an abusive relationship, do we just tell them "oh well" you get something out of it so just stay in it?
I mean if you want to help someone in an abusive relationship, telling them to just leave doesn't really work there either, and for a lot of the same reasons. But you can support them in other ways until they're able to do what's necessary to leave.