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I ask because I was thinking of how I went from a "one of the guys" type of girl to a full blown "bring down the patriarchy" type of woman. It wasn't one thing, it was many. Only through reflection and carefully putting the pieces together did I realize feminism was everything I had been feeling about my anger and frustration at inequality, and my need to make the world better for the people around me, but especially my neices.

So when did you realize you were a feminist?

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[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

As you said, it wasn’t one thing, it was many. My first clear memory where I started to question things was when I was about 9-11 years old. I encountered an anti-abortion rally downtown while I was with my father.

I asked him what they were protesting.

“They think it’s wrong for a woman to end a pregnancy.”

“Oh, killing babies is bad, isn’t it?”

“Do you think a woman should be made to carry a pregnancy even if she doesn’t want it?”

“Ohhh…. Hmm…”

I’m simplifying it, but my father was the first to reframe autonomy and free will for me. I hadn’t begun to realize how the world polices women up until that point.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 10 points 1 week ago

The abortion debate started my blood boiling, too. The rest was fuel.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 3 points 1 week ago

My dad was my source of "being a bitch" (as some had it: I would say "sticking to my autonomous guns"). Some fathers, it seems, actually love their daughters enough to question the system they grew up in. Those are the precious ones.