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I finally bought a domain! Now what (thelemmy.club)
submitted 1 day ago by philanthropicoctopus@thelemmy.club to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world
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Hi everyone

Thanks for all the advice on buying a domain. Its a big week for me. Getting on grapheneos, buying a domain, and I also recently started self hosting my contacts and calendar. I love this way of life.

My original plan was to one of the xyz 1.1111b domains for $1 a year but most of the feedback I got said just go with cloudflare. Its a lot more money than I had planned but all the security features are baked in and I feel that's worth the extra money.

Here are my questions. I use the latest version of truenas community

  1. How do I connect my domain to my server apps? I've got a series of apps I'd love to he able to access without tailscale and solely use the domain.
  2. I have heard the term DNS a million times but don't really understand it. What do.I need to know about DNS to keep security up and stay protected
  3. I'd like to let family access my media server, are there any considerations I need to make?
  4. How can I use one domain to access multiple services on my server? Do I need to pay extra for subdomains?

Thank you for any advice

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[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

They didn't shame anyone, they said they didn't understand their reasoning for doing it.

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

this is sad

They literally led by throwing shame unto OP.

That's how they opened their response.

It is not sad. Suggesting it is sad is a "gatekeeper-ass thing" to say.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Saying something is sad isn't shaming it. It's saying it makes you sad. Which can be caused by whatever depending on the purpose. You wouldn't say someone expressing that at a funeral was shaming the deceased would you?

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I think your life is sad.

Let me know how you took that.

Welcoming? Adversarial?

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well, I'd say you're right, but I don't know how you could have enough information about me to make such a determination just from this short conversation.

[–] foggy@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Right. And nor does Jason have enough info on OP.

So it comes across, as I said, as a "gatekeeper-ass" thing to say in the context of OPs journey to self hosting.

Where they are is in no way "sad". Except if you're being an adversarial gatekeeper dick about purity.