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Reliable messenger for family use? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by anakin78z@lemmy.world to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world

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Hello,

I've been self hosting Nextcloud for the last half a year, and my family has been using Nextcloud Talk to communicate. However, as cool it is overall, we suffer from a lot of missed messages. I've been keeping an eye on (and contributing to) the Android app, but even with all the updates, it seems like they can't quite figure out the issue with notifications not appearing consistently. My wife is fed up, so I'm looking for alternatives.

It seems like Matrix is the next logical one to try, but the Android apps have pretty poor reviews. A lot of the self hosted messengers also seem to be more like Slack replacements, rather than focused on family & friend use.

Has anyone had a good experience with a self hosted messenger for family use?

Thanks!

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[–] anakin78z@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I guess it doesn't have to be, but I really like the idea of having control over the data, and not handing it over to some other entity, even if they say they're not evil. It just seems like communication without a 3rd party in between is a good idea, so I'm trying to make that work for now.

[–] Cyber@feddit.uk 6 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

+1 for XMPP

I'm currently using a public server until I get my own (Raspberry Pi based) Prosody server running

Never had a missed notification / message and video calls are great too... even Grandma can use it

Using Conversations (Android) and Monal (ios)

[–] wilo108@lemmy.ml 4 points 23 hours ago

I host snikket (which is built on top of prosody) for my family and (especially) my pre-teen children and their friends. Pretty happy with it, all things considered.

[–] artyom@piefed.social 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Definitely decentralization is a good idea, but it also adds a layer of complexity that many are unable to grasp. Signal is always the easiest but I have major concerns about their longevity.

[–] anakin78z@lemmy.world 1 points 11 hours ago

Yea, we tried Signal a while back, but for whatever reason we didn't care for it.