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Reliable messenger for family use? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 day ago by anakin78z@lemmy.world to c/selfhosted@lemmy.world

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Hello,

I've been self hosting Nextcloud for the last half a year, and my family has been using Nextcloud Talk to communicate. However, as cool it is overall, we suffer from a lot of missed messages. I've been keeping an eye on (and contributing to) the Android app, but even with all the updates, it seems like they can't quite figure out the issue with notifications not appearing consistently. My wife is fed up, so I'm looking for alternatives.

It seems like Matrix is the next logical one to try, but the Android apps have pretty poor reviews. A lot of the self hosted messengers also seem to be more like Slack replacements, rather than focused on family & friend use.

Has anyone had a good experience with a self hosted messenger for family use?

Thanks!

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[–] irotsoma@piefed.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I use Signal because it's the best balance of privacy and security vs. convenience and reliability I have found. Not self-hosted, but I've yet to find a self hosted alternative that is as reliable, especially since I don't want to set up distributed servers, and it's one of those things that "just needs to work" or people will abandon it quickly.

And the older people I've convinced to use it, like my mom, have had very little trouble adopting it. It helped that RCS messaging is so unreliable on my phone since Google or my carrier keep seeming to break it (likely became I use GrapheneOS), and also for those with iPhones it is way more compatible with itself vs Apple and Google refusing to implement RCS in a way that all features work between them, like message reactions. Without RCS, my mom couldn't send me decent quality pictures of my niece all the time, and I couldn't send nice pictures of my outfits to the girl I'm dating, LOL.

[–] lka1988@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 15 hours ago

My wife and I use Signal. It works well.