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I have never once heard "real men don't eat quiche" that seems like some really bizarre gatekeeper rules.
I 🩷 quiche too btw
This is where it comes from https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Real_Men_Don%27t_Eat_Quiche
Interesting! I will have to check it out because I've never heard of it. But then again, growing up in a misogynistic, evangelical, smallish town, no one there was reading a book saying their ideas of manliness were stupid. Also I don't know when I ever first had a quiche.
So was it always more of a joke for you, or did people around you say stuff like that seriously?
The people around me said it in a "joking but not joking" way. I grew up in a small town in country Australia, but unlike yours, it wasn't particularly religious. They were conservative, racist, sexist, you name it, and that saying was enough of a thing for me to have heard it many times. I'm guessing, like me, most people didn't know where the saying came from though
Yeah, had no idea what it was from but the time frame adds up.
There was an American show called Ed, Edd, and Eddy where there was a slightly queer coded kid named Jimmy who brings a quiche to the cul-de-sac picnic and gets made fun of by the Eastern European coded “Foreign Kid” for cursing the picnic with a cursed food.
Always wondered why they chose quiche.