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anyone else both afraid to smile at men, but also afraid to not be nice? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)
submitted 3 months ago* (last edited 3 months ago) by dandelion@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/womensstuff@piefed.blahaj.zone
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like, if I'm nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I'm also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it's a real double-bind, and something I don't experience with women

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[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 39 points 3 months ago (3 children)

Hi, not sure if you're aware but this community is Women'sSuff, a woman only community for women to discuss women's topics with other women. Rule 1 says women only quite clearly. We appreciate your input but would prefer you relay your experiences elsewhere in future.

[–] KazuyaDarklight@lemmy.world 32 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Condolences, this made it to the public feed so there is going to be some people showing up without reading any rules.

[–] hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 3 months ago

Which is why we assume ignorance over malice, until further clarification is given.

[–] OfCourseNot@fedia.io 2 points 3 months ago (1 children)

We appreciate your input but

Oh! You did it again here...

[–] foxglove@lazysoci.al 11 points 3 months ago (1 children)

please play nice

[–] OfCourseNot@fedia.io 2 points 3 months ago

What do you mean? I was just pointing out an(other) obvious lie, no rule was broken (no aggression, personal attack or anything).