like, if I'm nice (as I would prefer to be), a man might get the wrong impression, but I'm also afraid to be rude or do anything to upset them so I have to be the right kind of nice or polite - it's a real double-bind, and something I don't experience with women
It can be pretty difficult in the workplace. You try to network, get along well with your colleagues, be helpful and smile just to find out some guy thought you were flirting. Depends a bit on the work culture and industry, but in some places guys will go out together and help each other/build a network but as soon as you try to do the exact same thing with male colleagues they think you're flirting.