[two characters are talking in a bar, the light blue one of the left looks smug, while the dark blue one on the right looks concerned]
[light blue] Women are so shallow, they only want a tall good looking guy with tons of money
[dark blue] What about Brenda? She seems to really care and is always there for you
[light blue] Brenda? She's fat poor and ugly!
I have never heard a guy decline a girl because she is poor.
Because she is fat and/or ugly? Sure.
I also don't think you should date someone you find ugly. While sex is not everything, it's an important part in most relationships.
Is poor? No. Fits vaguely into a poor stereotype or cultural corner? All the time.
personality is probably the major one, unless both sexes are so shallow about looks.
I mean, I've never heard it said explicitly, and our still-largely-partriarchical society does expect and therefore respect penis-havers to bring home the money. So, it doesn't matter that much, with how much money the person without the penis starts out with.
But I do think class differences implicitly still play quite a big role.
To some degree as part of secondary factors, for example you might look for an educated, physically fit partner, which a poor person cannot afford to take the time for.
To some degree, you just won't ever get to know certain poor people, because they might not be able to afford the same hobby as you, or shopping at the expensive store etc..
But even if you do meet someone and they could tick your preferences, it is easy to dismiss their interest outright as just being about money, if you can tell that they have less of it than you.
Even in a patriarchical society, you don't particularly want to be the guy where friends and family snicker that you're being used...
Gets more important as you get older, actually.
Letting a chick mooch off you for too long in a common-law state is a bad-idea. Kids with a poor chick is also a bad idea. All of this is moot if you just plan to give her half your stuff early-on; I won't lie, that's more mature than demanding someone you are better-off than put up with your shit indeffinitely; but try that before the relationship ends, and you're likely to find she has no more use for you.
Friend of mine has three criteria for women, aside from attractive which is just a given in his dating pool:
House (at least somewhere to go where she's welcome and not abused)
Income (ideally a job, but passive-income works)
Vehicle (or willing to use whatever form of transport it takes to get her need$ met without constantly borrowing/demanding rides)
If she's not bringing all three to the table, you're paying for whatever you get out of the relationship, somehow. Me? I don't think that would bother me so much were I to find myself single, but I have other criteria re: emotional and overall maturity, and women who have those figured out tend to have the House, Income, Vehicle thing worked-out as well.
Lastly, it goes without saying that if you're not bringing all that to the table, you don't get to be so picky. These are long-term-relationship criteria, but people would be so much healthier if they knocked these all out before pretending they deserve to be anyone else's one-and-only.
Ugly people have sex too, you know.
In fact, 50% of people have below-average looks. Do you think they all abstain?
No, I just think people have different taste and different thresholds when to call someone ugly
according to who, you? looks is pretty subjective. people do date on personality and i dare say it, your income too in despite of the looks of a person.