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Jesus Christ

If I was on a Chinese forum, they'd all just side with my mother.

Why couldn't my mother have been a Norweigian? They seem so happy, I'm so fucking jealous.

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[–] worhui@lemmy.world 2 points 2 months ago

Seeing this first hand with a 1st generation immigrant mother(not mine) I am getting to know as an adult.

The western philosophy is a bit different than it was explained. In the West the parents are responsible for the kids. They brought them into the world and they are responsible for raising them to be productive members of society. You don't owe the kids, but you do have to raise them and look after them. If you don't cps goes after the adult.

Behaving as your mom does is being asked to be treated like a child or a baby while still demanding the respect of being an adult.