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Upstairs neighbor deadlifting in his apartment (lazysoci.al)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by yonderbarn@lazysoci.al to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have a couple that lives above my apartment and the guy regularly workouts in his apartment. His workouts happen 4-5 times a week sometimes twice a day. Weekdays he'll do a workout 630am and play electronic music at the same time. Sometimes he'll workout again 530pm.

I know the sound I'm hearing are the result of dumbells/barbells bouncing on the floor because he's doing 6 reps and dropping the weights on the last one. He will do a few sets. Workouts last anywhere from 30 minutes to an hour.

I've tried getting the attention of building management but they don't seem to want to get involved. When I initially complained, they reached out via email to my neighbor and he responded that he was away on vacation.

As retaliation, for the past week I started blasting music all day (we both work from home) right when he starts he workout. I can hear him scrambling trying to find a way to soundproof the floors. Him and his girlfriend can't get into bed until I turn off the music. So far I haven't had any of the other neighbors complain about the music (I hardly see them). I stopped for a couple days to see if he would stop working out, but he was back at it again and I immediately turned on the music again.

For the record, I've never seen/met him in person.

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[–] FriendOfDeSoto@startrek.website 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I understand your rage. Has being enraged made this situation better? Management brushed you off. You could try calling the cops but I wouldn't pin any hope on that. What else are you going to do? Keep in mind that if you're the party that keeps playing loud music at odd hours you will probably end up the subject of a complaint by your direct neighbors.

We live in a society. Society includes among other things dicks and injustices. You have come across the former and suffer the latter. I understand why you're pissed off. Every action you take that isn't the measured response of an adult will decrease your chances of solving this problem. Not having gotten in touch directly with your neighbor - that should have been step one, which you have missed. Petty retaliation - as much as I get the urge - is another misstep.

As far as I can see it, you have three choices:

(1) Continue escalation, which will feel good in the moment but has only a very low chance of succes.

(2) Move apartments.

(3) Follow the advise by a golden_zealot@lemmy.ml in this thread. Keep in mind that your position in that is strengthened by being a flawless, rule-abiding victim.

There is no point in telling me how they are weird hermits or about whatever assholery they also get up to on the reg. I don't care if they also eat puppies for dinner. You already have my sympathy here. You need to calm the fuck down for a second to realize that (3) is your best strategy if you're not willing to move. And if you cannot resist the urge to argue with me about this in all caps, then I wish you all the best.

[–] yonderbarn@lazysoci.al 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I'll meet with management in person next week. I only emailed them last time. More importantly I'll make the case that it's a matter of property damage.

[–] PopcornPrincess@lemmy.world 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

If management keeps brushing you off…you could go more “Karen” on them or keep bugging them. You pay rent.

I’d keep it indirect especially if they seem like they don’t care; why bother talking directly with the neighbors which they could potentially see as confrontational. Personally I’d stop escalating with the music since it’s not working (they’re either unaware or are jerks). Make management deal with it.

Also keep complaining to management if they continue. Apartments I lived at had quiet hours in the contract; after so many complaints someone could get kicked out. Hopefully this is the case for you. Good luck. It’s a game of patience.

[–] yonderbarn@lazysoci.al 2 points 3 days ago

The music is working now because they're getting little sleep now now that I've stopped giving them a break here and there. I have a lot more endurance when it comes to operating with little sleep. These idiots fucked with the wrong person LMAO

Having said that, I am going to meet with management in person. When I originally contacted them it was via email, which probably made it easy for them to deflect it. I won't make it a noise issue but a matter of property damage that should be within their interests.