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Dealing with rejection! Is alcohol a good thing or should i deal with it sober? (lemmy.world)

submitted 1 week ago by Blite@lemmy.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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Due to low self esteem and poor social skills, i dont usually approach women irl, also i fear im making them scaried or im bothering them. When i do, im usually rejected and i get really sad over this and i usually drink alcohol as a coping mechanism. All girls i approached in my life rejected me. I know im not entitled to relationships or anything and they have all the right to reject me, but i still get very sad over this, but i feel like using alcohol only makes things worse. I approached a girl at the gym, asked for her name, presented myself, i told her i considered her and her smile and voice beautiful, but ultimately i was rejected. I dont know if im overreacting or if its fine to drink in such occasions.

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[–] Someonelol@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 week ago

Its best to deal with it sober. Drinking will only help you to dwell on the experiences for way longer than you should. I'd personally only use it as a social lubricant when appropriate. Just know that being rejected isn't a "you" problem considering you're at least going to the gym for what I assume is your health. Keep going with life experiencing it the way you want and eventually you might run into the right girl for you.