Off My Chest
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Ok, so you don't have what they call "the social skills" but you can learn them.
Your approach of the girl at the gym was all wrong. What you need is practice making conversation, and understanding if your conversation partner is interested, or if they'd rather be left alone. If it is the latter, you gracefully exit "Big gulps eh? Whelp see ya!"
It takes practice learning how to speak with people. No need for compliments and asking for numbers and hoping for a miracle. You strike up a light hearted conversation, and let it flow. You sense they're looking for the exits, you wish them a good day.
Booze? Forgetabout it. Start training yourself. Talk to everybody, get better at it, pay attention, get comfortable starting and ending conversations. You'll become more relaxed, comfortable, easier to talk to, funnier. No big rejections because you picked up on the vibe way before it got there.