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40% of teenage boys believe women lie about domestic and sexual violence: new research (theconversation.com)
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Support for violence to resist feminism was highest among adolescent boys (28%), followed closely by adolescent girls (21%).

Perhaps most alarming: roughly 40% of boys aged 13 to 17 agreed that women lie about domestic and sexual violence.

These results raise crucial questions going forward. We don’t yet know how these views have changed over time, whether they are on the rise and what the links are between violent extremism and the negative treatment of women.

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[–] ulterno@programming.dev -1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I'd say a truly equal condition would be when the women feel like they have the freedom to not date anyone. But due to how expectations work, I feel like that would be hard to happen for anyone in that age group.

I have found it, in general, rare for people to get to live their life by their own thoughts and not be swayed by fads in media. At the same time, that is one trait I consider important for anyone to not have to regret their decisions.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

nobody is forcing women to date. what the hell are you talking about?

men and women both have social pressure to be in relationships, they also want to be in them.

however, what is different about things these days is it's way easier to be alone than tolerate being with a shitty miserable partner. I actually have same complaints with dating as my 17 year old nephew, that my choices are be happy alone, or be miserable with someone who hates their life/friends/family and wants to make me suffer too. we'd both love to date someone who is happy with their life, but we don't meet anyone like that.

[–] ulterno@programming.dev 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

we’d both love to date someone who is happy with their life, but we don’t meet anyone like that

Yes. That's pretty much how it is for most.

But their expectations from relationships also get shaped by the expectations on them. And here I realise I am just saying the same thing as you, just in different words.

[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 3 points 3 days ago (1 children)

sort of, but you are pointing out one of the biggest problems with the whole thing. Also in my experience, it's that people's expectations of relationships are so far out of whack with the reality there really is no point in trying anymore.

And I've noticed this a lot. Most of my dates now expect me to make a 500K salary or something and think anyone who doesn't is 'not worth their time'. It's an absurd expectation born of defensiveness and seeking fantasy escapism, rather than real connection. And they fill up their lives with social media and consumerism and broadcast that they are so happy on the outside, but they are miserable on the inside because they have no real connections and their external 'standards' they are a requirement for 'happiness' just prevent them from actually making real relationships. And they justify a lot of that by claiming that others expect perfection of them so they should expect perfection of others. It's so... fucked up and self-destructive. But if you bring it up... if you challenge the idea that you can be happy without a 500K income... they go ballistic on you for 'having no ambition' 'being a loser' etc.

My other favorite thing to do on dates sometimes, is to say something like "I think people are the most beautiful when they wake up and their hair is messy and groggy and they stink a little bit'. It really fucks with these types of people, because for them being a human being who is messy and imperfect is like the thing they are desperately trying to avoid being.

[–] ulterno@programming.dev 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Well, considering how the same people think that they need multiple cosmetic surgeries and then fill up more make-up to be "normal", I see where the 500K comes from. Even if I had 500K to burn, I won't be dating any of those, but that's just me not being normal.