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[–] TubularTittyFrog@lemmy.world 4 points 5 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

your wife's expectations are so low that your basic respect and competent and communication probably make you seem like a saint to her.

I'd kill to meet a partner who was just... a decent human being. I have had no such luck. Everyone I have dated lies, manipulates, and acts like a toddler when it comes to emotional stuff. They left zero room in the relationship for me to have my own life. Being single for the past 6 years has been amazing because I have actually been able to achieve things without the dead weight of a needy and useless partner who contributes nothing to the relationship in terms of adult responsibilities.

my parents weren't that bad but they were similar in their helplessness and refusal to take responsibility for anything and their blaming of everyone else.