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America

  • Good pay
  • Bigger Houses
  • Free internet
  • Not an ethnostate
  • Nice/open people
  • Nice Nature
  • Public Respect (somewhat)
  • While the chances are low, shootings and police/ICE violence is not 0%
  • Universities, really good if not best (as an academic)

China

  • Clean, Major cities are clean but more polluted and trashed than other two
  • Ethnostate, forever an outsider
  • Increasingly difficult internet.
  • Nice/open people
  • Safe Society
  • Universities, pretty mid to bad at best unless its top

Japan

  • Cleanest
  • Ethnostate, forever an outsider, but not being stared at or random photos like in China
  • Free internet
  • Nice Nature
  • Public Trust
  • Public Respect
  • Safe Society
  • Universities, pretty mid to bad at best unless its top three

I feel forever trapped between these three countries with family, languages, culture, and religion. Very lost on which to pursue for my career. A recent trip to China has made me very much feel not China. I cannot stand the staring, photo taking making me feel like I'm a zoo animal, even more so for my child. But it is nice and pay can be decent. I also really like Chinese people and culture.

America has a lot of good, but I'm so sick of having to be stressed about its politics and the culture of violence. I do love the nature, individual freedom, and academic (tho the recent not being able to comment on Israel has been insane).

Japan is great on the surface but subtle racism, bad pay, and trump-copy cat prime minister is concerning. Committing to China or especially Japan over the US is fucking my family financially if we want to visit family in the other two countries.

Side note, I love being fluid between three cultures but not having a stable home in one place is somewhat exhausting.

Another random thought is America is actually so comfortable compared to China or Japan when it comes to being yourself.

Edit: why is everyone being pedantic or getting upset over one word rather than just answer lmao

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[โ€“] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 14 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Uhh where the hell in america you getting free internet? Not a thing. $70 a month for 200 Mbps.

America is way too huge to make a generalization on the people but I'll tell you on the non-coasts, youll run into hick racist assholes. But its cheap to live in those areas.

The landscapes are awesome on the west side.

I wouldnt move here since its about to experience a full collapse with many jobs being lost and a full on acceleration to fascism. Most people want to get out of America, not move in lol.

[โ€“] vfreire85@lemmy.ml 1 points 31 minutes ago

70 usd for 200 mbps? Local isp's here in Brazil are charging 20 usd for 600 mbps, 30 usd for 1 gbps.

[โ€“] ComradeMiao@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I meant free as in not blocked like in China.

Yeah I like the coasts but I do worry about the gov and police...

If I were to move to the US from elsewhere, I'd maybe try Boise Idaho. Kind of expensive to live there tho.

Portland would be nice except there's crackheads running around the streets. No thanks.

Chicago is cool but again expensive. Could go an hour or 2 out of the city for cheaper.

The Midwest is boring but you can get a house and your own land for cheap. Then get a good long distance car and take road trips.

[โ€“] sudoer777@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think they meant not having a great firewall, which they don't need since they'll use military and economic force instead

[โ€“] bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Oh duh, I see.

Yeah, america is no different than China in military and surveillance. The citizens are just dumber (many WANT surveillance fascism).

Dont move there.

[โ€“] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 5 points 4 hours ago

The US Empure has hundreds of millitary bases all over the world. You can count the number of international military bases owned by China on one hand. The US Empire is constantly at war. China hasn't been to war in many decades. Entirely different.