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What does "out of my league" even mean?
The concept of someone being "out of my league" is a myth. We really should stop putting people in these categories and instead see everyone as an equal challenge. By labeling someone as "out of my league," I am limiting myself and degrading the people who I think are "in my league." It's better to focus on people we're genuinely interested in and not place them on such a high pedestal that they feel they need to be worshipped. Rather place them high enough to think they are prized. The people we date are the ones who we think are great, and we believe they could make us great too.
I feel we should remember that no one is out of anyone's league. We should rather focus our attention on a person we're genuinely interested in and challenge ourselves.
You never know what might happen until you try.
I mean if I'm ugly and the girl is hot I think she's out of my league.
You seriously shouldnt. Of course it matters whether people feel physically attracted to someonee.... But attractiveness is not the same as beauty. I noticed that a big push for being attractive is a high self confidence. I personally also get attracted when someone speaks really passionate about something.
That's a good point. Attractiveness is different than beauty, and I guess looking like a model won't be worth much if you're an asshole.
I have a bunch of women as friends and many of them say the same: A guy can only be average looking to them but say something really smart or nice or funny, and all of a sudden everything about him is beautiful.
Sure there are some people who really got dealt a bad hand when playing poker for their face but there's definitely much more to attraction than just physical appearance.
Is the same true for women, though?
Yeah, I think so.