I'm so sorry to hear about your stepdad.

Your world might be a bit shaken up right now and if so it's best not to jump headfirst into any big decisions, and it's especially important to make sure that you are ok before trying to be someone others lean on.

But if and when you're sure you are in the right place, it sounds like you may be a good fit for Big Brothers Big Sisters, a programme where you mentor young people. There are branches across much of NZ so there's a good chance one is local.